DEPLETED: How Over-Pouring Left Me Feeling Like An Imposter In My Own Life
A revelation about why giving too much made me forget my worth
The Exhaustion Breakthrough
Last night, gliding on a scooter to sunset at the ocean, I finally understood:
My imposter syndrome wasn't about doubt - it was about depletion.
For years, I've been:
- The therapist friend who listens for hours (I’m not a therapist)
- The coach who gives "just one more" free session
- The partner who nurtures potential rather than demanding reciprocity
And here's what no one tells you:
When you pour everything into others, you become a stranger to yourself.
The Webinar Wake-Up Call
Building my Mindful Dating webinar (Sunday 1pm EDT - join here 👉🏽 linktr.ee) should have been a triumph. Instead, pricing it felt like:
☞ "Who would pay me for this?"
☞ "Maybe I should offer discounts..."
☞ "Is this even valuable?"
When my friend labeled it imposter syndrome, I realized:
I'd given so much away for free that I forgot my gifts were worth paying for.
The Devastating Pattern
1. In Relationships
Dating "projects" instead of partners
Accepting breadcrumbs because "he's trying"
Becoming the “Fixer” girlfriend
2. In Business
Undercharging until I'm priced out
Saying yes to "exposure" opportunities
Feeling guilty when clients pay me
3. In Spirit
Meditating for others' healing, not my own
Ignoring my exhaustion as "part of the process"
Calling self-abandonment "service"
The Core Realization
Over-pouring wasn't generosity - it was avoidance.
Avoiding:
✓ Setting boundaries
✓ Receiving care
✓ Admitting I need support too
The tragic irony?
The more I poured into others, the emptier I felt - and the more like an imposter in my own life.
The New Mantra
"What if being full isn't selfish, but necessary?"
Now I'm learning to:
✦ Say no to conserve my yeses
✦ Charge what sustains me
✦ Let others show up for me too
The Invitation
If you:
- Feel guilty taking up space
- Give 110% but still question your worth
- Secretly wish someone would care for YOU
This is your sign:
Your light isn't meant to be rationed.
The most radical act?
Letting yourself be poured into.
P.S. My webinar's where I'll be talking about this live. Come witness the shift.