The Catharsis of an Unblocked Heart
Hello Beautiful,
It’s been a while, and yes—I’ve missed you too.
It’s currently 5:39 AM here in Bali on a Sunday morning. I’m sitting at my desk, bathed in candlelight as dawn begins to break. A heavy rain just fell, and it felt so good. If I weren’t taking a break from running, I’d go outside and let the rain touch my skin, maybe hiding tears I can’t shed unless they’re washed away by the downpour. It’s cathartic for me—like a beautiful kiss with a lover, so romantic to be swept up in the moisture and beauty of the earth cleansing itself.
I want to share my journey with chakra unblocking. This post has been a long time coming, and since my brain won’t let me sleep, I’ll let the words find their place here.
About a month ago, more or less, I checked in with myself during a long Saturday meditation. I felt like I kept hitting roadblocks and needed to ensure everything was aligned. A quiet intuition nudged me to check my chakras, and I discovered several were blocked.
As a practitioner and healer, I know this happens, so regular check-ins are essential. But what surprised me was my heart chakra—dark and motionless. I couldn’t believe it. How?
That realization stirred concern. When I asked my heart what it needed, tears streamed down my face. My heart needed to be free. I giggle as I write this because if you know me, you know I love deeply and intentionally. This awareness left me confused, but I stayed with my heart, working to restore its movement and unpack its needs. I also realigned a few other unbalanced chakras.
What I can tell you is that chakra work is no joke. It’s invisible to the naked eye, which makes it terrifying—unlike surgery, where a scar reminds you to care for the wound. This is energetic surgery, where everything you’ve suppressed ruptures to the surface, and the worst part? You’ll forget you even had the procedure.
After that meditation and chakra balancing session, I remembered the work I’d done but somehow forgot to brace for its effects. It felt like my life was unraveling in every area—a "tower moment," but all at once, to varying degrees. Yet, as things fell apart, others came together. Beautiful chaos, I suppose.
My bathroom ceiling literally collapsed. I swear, I couldn’t make this up. I kept asking myself if I was in survival mode, and the answer was always no—but I still had to move my ass and get things done. I was all over the place, like a ping-pong ball, trying to hold some things together while others crumbled.
Then, I found myself bawling my eyes out. This isn’t like me. While I’ve become more emotionally expressive since my trauma-healing journey, this was intense. Between sobs, I kept repeating, "I’m not okay, I’m not okay." Looking back, it’s almost cute. And that’s when I remembered: the chakra unblocking. My heart was pouring out everything that had been stuck inside—tragic yet beautiful. That’s how I knew it was truly open again. I felt more than I had in a year—more sensitive to energy (mine and others’), more open to love.
I realized I’d been protecting my heart, and that very protection had blocked it. Imagine that—guarding your heart so fiercely that you close it off to love. Colors grew brighter. My connection with my guides deepened. It was breathtaking.
Around this time, I reconnected with a friend in Bali whom I’d met years ago. He told me how proud he was of my yoga journey and suggested incorporating yoga into dating. My reactive response? "Are you asking me to prostitute yoga?" Those were my exact words. I needed time to process it with a clear spirit. Reflecting on my life and posts, I realized—most of my writing is about relationships. Then, recalling my chakra unblocking, it hit me: this aligns perfectly with love. Not just as a concept, but with my current journey.
And that’s how the Mindful Dating webinar was born. The last time I checked, there were 799 new members. It’s undeniably one of the most beautiful projects I’ve undertaken. Hearing others’ stories about their search for love fuels me to keep doing this work—both for myself and for them.
Our chakras, though invisible and unknown to many, play a pivotal role in our energetic frequencies. I understand why some hesitate to engage with them—once you do, you feel everything you’ve never allowed yourself to feel before.
My first chakra balancing session with my guru in Bali years ago released so many repressed emotions that therapy and coaching hadn’t touched. It also revealed my gift for healing and channeling through people’s energy and physical conditions.
I’ve found my guru again and plan to do another session with him. Yes—even healers need healers to ensure we’re clear.
I’ve felt more deeply than ever before. I’m at peace with speaking my truth and admitting when I’m wrong. If you’ve known me for years—yes, I no longer fear apologies. LOL.
If you read this in a negative light, you might think I’ve had a terrible time. But the truth? I’ve experienced magic and miracles—and that’s why I’d do it all again. I’m at peace knowing what’s meant for me will stay, and what’s not, won’t.
So here’s to feeling fear fearlessly—to opening myself to love and being loved. To embracing vulnerability: my emotions, my tears, my laughter, random dancing, and singing. I know I’m capable of opening up even more.
Warm hugs,
Shane 🧘🏽♀️🦋